Saturday, October 18, 2008
The Other Side of the Pillow
Okay, so, you just had a great night (or morning) full of intimacy or purely physical activity- you feel good, confident, and all you want to do is cuddle. There's something wrong though: You are tired and you need to rest. What's stopping you?
Your arm is falling asleep.
Ever have those times where they lay on your arm and you really just need to find a way to shove that beautiful person just a few inches over? I find that it's mentally hard to even try to move them entirely to the other side of the bed. Hey, I need my space and I want to cuddle with you- but I have to get up in a few hours and I need to feel every limb of my body (but thank you for making me aware of them approximately 30 minutes ago).
It seems as though asking for it will make you seem distant or you try to do it in subtle ways but they still curl back up to you even if you nudge your body away slightly. It's not that you don't like them, but "Seriously, I can't afford to be sleepy when I've got midterms on Monday and errands that need to be completed".
But there's a catch: Don't you have that fantasy where the person won't care and they will cuddle and rest for hours and not think of anyone or anything but you? You can make breakfast in the morning and slowly wake up or maybe even just lie in bed until 2pm. We say we want this, but as soon as the climax is finished-we want to wipe off, take a shower, and become clean again. We say we dream of certain things, when in reality, when given the opportunity, fight it and come back to reality again. This reality has laundry to do, groceries to buy, homework to be done, and doesn't involve 1 hour of sleep because this body is next to you.
So, I may be ranting again, but I think it's interesting what we do or how we feel in this situation. I'm not saying the experience wasn't sublime, but some rest and some space would be too.
So herein the mission lies...
Don't be offended if someone needs to roll over to the other side and remove their arm from under your body. Believe me, cutting off circulation of blood flow is the last thing you want to do- especially if you count on having more of these experiences. And in turn, don't be afraid to do the same. They will probably be grateful that they too will be able to get some R+R to to charge up for some more.